We have all had good relationships and bad ones. Each have something to teach us. Some of you might be wondering if true love even exists because you have been hurt so badly. We have heard enough about toxic relationships, divorce, and disasters and the term narcissist is thrown around far too much. Talking about all those negative situations keeps us stuck in that negative downward spiral, so it is time to start thinking of the good outcomes. After all, what we focus on grows.
What about a happily ever after? Well, they do still exist. To prepare for a long happy relationship we need to identify a few very important traits. The first being awareness. Awareness is the catalyst to growth, transformation, and change. Next, is we have to love and accept ourselves. In order to prepare for a loving relationship with another person we must first know ourselves, set firm boundaries, and find our own self interests. A confident person is an attractive person. Make sure you spend some time getting to really know yourself before diving into a relationship.
From my experience, love makes you feel like you can accomplish anything. It instills a sense of greater confidence that feels amazing. It is a feeling of complete acceptance. First, of and from yourself, but then from your partner. It is comfort and security on a level that cannot be compared. You now have a second person who has your back through everything.
Love is exhilarating passion, yet calming peace which co-exist. It can literally be the most complicated, confusing, intoxicating drug on the planet, and yet healing and healthy when used in the way it is intended, which is to elevate both individuals. The purpose of a relationship is to create a safe space of acceptance and appreciation where both people can reach their full potential as individuals and as a couple through encouragement and constructive criticism. Your person should provide you with a calming energy and yet your passion together will remain evident. People will notice your beautiful connection and even comment on how happy you look.
Love is complex and yet simple. It never makes you second guess. If you are second guessing it most likely is not true love. Love is an all knowing feeling that your partner has your back and you have them. When someone loves you they tell you, they show you through actions, and they make it obvious, you will never be left questioning. You can finally surrender all of your insecurities. You trust your person with all of your deepest secrets and flaws and yet you know they would never use that knowledge to harm you. You feel a weight lifted off your shoulders. You feel HOME in each hug. The most comforting feeling you can possibly imagine. When you experience this rare connection you just know. You would do anything for this person and would do nothing to harm this relationship. THIS is LOVE it is not is not materialistic or needy because it transcends the 3D words of ego.
You can remain interdependent because love breeds confidence and is not controlling or jealous. Love is tender and kind. Love has a sense of complete appreciation. When you look into your person’s eyes you can have an entire conversation without ever speaking a word. Yet, you can be miles away and feel completely connected. Once you experience this you realize true love does exist.
True love is about compromise and commitment. Love is hard work. Part of love is growth, and with growth comes growing pains. Love is being there, listening, softening, forgiving. Even when you are super busy or do not feel well you continue to show up and make an effort. When someone truly matters to you nothing and no one will stand in your way. You will prioritize accordingly. Love is full time and is about jumping the hurdles that life throws your way hand in hand, not just the romance.
Both people have to take care of the garden of love by pulling their own personal weeds, and nurturing each other through spiritual, intellectual, emotional, and sexual intimacy. It takes effort from both people, but when the synergy is working together nothing tops that divine energy. You feel truly unstoppable and there is a reason for that. You are with this person because they elevate you. They make you want to be the very best version possible of yourself and therefore you are manifesting amazing things. The Law of Attraction is working to your benefit. You keep each other going when the times get tough and you know exactly what it takes to lift your person up. Just make sure you enforce your boundaries and if you are the partner doing the supporting without receiving support in return, have an honest conversation. If your partner cannot reciprocate the love you deserve know when to walk away. Not all love lasts forever, unfortunately.
Love is enjoying laughing with your best friend, hot steamy passionate sex, deep meaningful conversations, and possibly most importantly, simple daily tasks all wrapped up in the same beautiful person. And each time you see him you silently say to yourself, “Man…I love him,” every damn time.
Love is worth the vulnerability and fear. Trust me. When you finally find the person who is willing to fight your battles right beside you and protect you loyally, that you know would never harm or hurt you, the one who is proud to show you off to all he knows…. THAT is your soul mate. It may be tough at times because part of a soul mate’s role is to help us grow, but it is worth it.
Do the work. Work together through the challenges. Remember, you are on the same team. Disagreements are a part of life, but when they arise be respectful of each perspective, listen, and work together to resolve the issue. When you learn to do this, it gives you a whole new strength and a solid foundation on which you can continue to build. Love can last forever with effort and consistency. My parents were married for 62 beautiful years until my dad passed away at 90 years old, so I know for a fact that with a bit of effort, belief, trust, and steadfast love you can have a long lasting beautiful relationship. Keep the passion alive by always dating your partner, no matter how many years you have been together, and continue the effort for your partner was the advice my parents passed on to me and I now share that with you.
With Love,
Libby
P.S. If you have a beautiful love story you would like to share to help inspire and encourage others please comment below. We would love to hear from you. Thank you for taking the time to read this blog. I hope if you are feeling in the mood for love….