The only place where fear exists is in our minds and yet it holds us back from accomplishing most of our dreams.
There is no worse feeling than being trapped, but what if we are really only trapped by the confines of our own emotions? Fear is not fatal. If you fall simply get back up. Take the analogy of a toddler learning to walk. They take a few steps before falling and as parents we joyfully cheer them on. The child may sit, laugh, or even cry before getting back up and trying again with forward momentum. It is important to remember that child, as well as that resilient spirit, is still within us all. It is easy to blossom into our best being when we are loved, but when we have suffered trauma our brains are wired for protection and it becomes harder to live from a place of love and vulnerability. Sometimes we have to be our own advocate and cheerleader until we find a mate who can support us in the ways we need and that’s ok too. In fact, it is extremely healthy to learn to be independent.
Trauma, by definition, is any deeply disturbing experience.
Most of us by adulthood have experienced some form of trauma to some extent. People who experience more traumatic events such as witnessing death, going through abuse, rape, war, or a severe accident may develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), which is a psychiatric condition. Doctors are recognizing yoga and meditation more as late as some of the best healing modalities for PTSD. Coaching is a great way to tap into goal setting and reinventing yourself as you process and learn to express your emotions. Painful events wake us up and make us show up in life. Sometimes something we think is bad turns out to be our greatest blessing. Spiritual growth and higher consciousness come from dark and difficult times. But, with that new awakening we often are drawn to an entirely new course for our life that a life coach can help us to navigate.
“It is how we respond to a traumatic event that determines whether trauma will be a cruel and punishing Medusa turning us into stone, or whether it will be a spiritual teacher taking us along vast and uncharted pathways.”
The Key to Overcoming Trauma is Higher Consciousness
Avoidance and isolation are very common practices among people with PTSD which makes sense, but the only way to overcome the trauma is to face the FEAR of the emotions and to go through the pain rather than avoid it. FEAR after all is false evidence appearing real OR said another way face everything and rise! When we illuminate the darkness in our hearts and minds the demons and monsters can no longer whisper to and control us. We take back our power. It goes back to the saying, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” Surround yourself with supportive people who will encourage you to continue your journey and pursue your purpose in life. Nothing comes easy and it certainly does not come if we do not try for it. It is very important in the healing process to allow ourselves to feel every emotion and to process those emotions in constructive ways. So for example when you feel angry and need to punch something maybe take a kick boxing class. Start by setting a clear vision for what you want in life. Be extremely detailed. Envision it as if you have already accomplished it. And remember to expect some set backs along the climb to the top.
Each time we have the courage to push our edge in a growth mindset we are liberated.
Life weaves us in and out of peaks and valleys for a reason. We reach the top of that mountain peak for a moment of glory, before riding the back down into the dark valley once more. This is the natural cycle of life. This is how life continuously challenges us and then allows us to rest. It really is about doing the self-work, building our own confidence, following our passion, and living the life we love. Often we have to go inward to find what we are looking for through observation, self-study, self-acceptance and self-love. And then have the courage to face our fears and take that next leap of faith when we are challenged. When you are on top of the mountain in your glory live it up and let that momentum give you the courage to carry you through the darker times which will unavoidably come. Keep practicing self love and self care along the journey. Remember to stay humble and kind. You will be surrounded by miracles and as you reach this higher state of conciousness those miracles will become more apparent.
The moments of awakening are generally triggered by intense psychological turmoil.
In these moments of triumph during awakening the importance of the past and the future fade and we become fully immersed in the present where we feel safe, joyful, unscathed, divine, and connected. You feel the ultimate sense of gratitude. In yoga we call this Samadhi, or enlightenment. It is the place of no division. The place of oneness with all beings. This is the goal of all human life. Maslow would call this Self Realization or Transcendence. Each time we have an “Ah ha moment” and suddenly everything makes sense, each new accomplishment, each level of understanding, each fear conquered these are all examples of moments of awakening. Suddenly stress fades away, you stop comparing yourself to others, you no longer feel a need for anything, and a sense of utter contentment overcomes you. Imagine complete relief and total ecstasy.
Anytime we become emotionally stuck, our lives become repetitive and we fail to move forward.
Emotionally free people by contrast are more likely to feel secure trying new things, staying in a growth mindset, pushing their edge and enjoying more of those peak moments where confidence is ultimately created. So, challenge yourself to push your edge, try something new once in a while, say yes. Get unstuck. We only get one chance at this beautiful life so we might as well live it the way we want. It is never too late to start over and reinvent the life you love. Fall in love with your life all over again.
I hope this blog will help you face your fears, overcome your challenges, rise to the best version of yourself, and if you are working to overcome trauma I hope you are able to keep putting one foot in front of the other so to speak and just keep going one day at a time facing one hurdle at a time. Each peak is a huge victory on your part so pause and be proud of yourself.
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Healing Wishes,
Libby
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